Vatican City, 20 May 2015 (VIS) – The
education of children as the natural vocation of the family was the
theme of Pope Francis' catechesis during this Wednesday's general
audience in St. Peter's Square.
The Holy Father, first citing the words
of St. Paul to the Colossians: “Children, obey your parents in
everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your
children, lest they become discouraged”, emphasised the duty of
parents to accompany their children step by step, without demanding
the impossible, so as not to overwhelm them. He then went on to speak
of the difficulties faced by mothers and fathers who often only have
the opportunity to see their children in the evening when they return
home tired after work – “those who are lucky enough to have
work”, he added – and also referred to the even more critical
situation faced by separated parents, inviting them to ensure that
the conflicts between the couple do not have an impact on the
children.
Francis also mentioned that the family
has been accused of other things, including authoritarianism,
favouritism, conformism, and emotional repression that generates
conflicts. “In fact, a fracture has opened up between family and
society, undermining mutual trust, and in this way, the alliance
between family and society in the education of children has entered
into a crisis”.
“There are many symptoms”, he
continued. “For example, in schools this has affected relationships
between parents and teachers. … On the other hand, there has been a
proliferation of so-called 'experts' who occupy the role of parents
even in the most intimate aspects of education … and parents are
expected only to listen, to learn and to adapt. Deprived of their
role, they often become excessively apprehensive and possessive with
regard to their children, to the point of never correcting them. They
tend to increasingly entrust them to 'experts', even in relation to
the most delicate and personal aspects of their life, placing
themselves in the corner. In this way, parents run the risk of
excluding themselves from the life of their children”.
“How have we arrived at this point?
Without doubt in the past parents, or rather, certain educational
models, had certain limits. But it is also true that there are
mistakes that only parents are authorised to make, as they are able
to compensate for them in a way that is impossible for any other
person. On the other hand, as we well know, life now spares us little
time for speaking, reflection and exchange. Many parents are
'kidnapped' by their work and other worries, and they find themselves
paralysed by the fear of making mistakes. The problem, however, is
not only about talking. … Let us ask ourselves instead: do we seek
to understand 'where' our children truly are on their path? Where is
their soul? … And above all, do we want to know?”.
Francis underlined that the Christian
communities are called upon to offer support to the educational
mission of the family. “At the base of everything there is love,
that which God gives to us, that “is not arrogant or rude. It does
not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does
not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears
all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things”. Even in the best of families, there is much to be endured,
and it takes a lot of patience. Jesus Himself experienced education
in the family”.
“Even in this case, the grace of
Christ's love fulfils what is inscribed in human nature. How many
excellent examples we have of Christian parents full of human wisdom!
They show that good family education is the backbone of humanism. Its
spread through society is the resource that allows us to compensate
for the shortcomings, the wounds, the lack of paternity and maternity
that affect the least fortunate children, and works true miracles”.
“I hope that the Lord may give
Christian families the faith, freedom and courage necessary for their
missions. If family education rediscovers the pride of its central
role, many things will change for the better, for uncertain parents
and disappointed children. It is time for fathers and mothers to
return from their exile, and to fully resume their role as
educators”, concluded Francis.